January #98 : All the Right Places - by Lucile Scott

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10 Ways to End AIDS (in 10 years)

Happy New You

Political Science

"Prevention" for Positives

Habitats for HIVers

On the Job

Going Under Cover

All the Right Places

2024: AIDS Cured, ex-PWAs Ignored

Trouble Indemnity


Show & Gel

Healthful Humor

Living on Hope


High Resolution: New Year’s Creeds

2004: What’s In, What’s Out?


When Your CD4s Count

New Med on the Shelf

Quick Study: Virus in Vaginas

Strike a Pose

Chicago Hope?

Quick Study: Hep C

Watch Your Mouth


CMV Drug Does Double Duty

Bed Head

Unreality TV


Publisher's Letter

Amazing Race

Most Popular Lessons

The HIV Life Cycle


Herpes Simplex Virus

Syphilis & Neurosyphilis

Treatments for Opportunistic Infections (OIs)

What is AIDS & HIV?

Hepatitis & HIV

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January 2004

All the Right Places

by Lucile Scott

One sorry mixer will hardly thwart Annette’s romantic hopes. For dating tips, POZ hooked

One sorry mixer will hardly thwart Annette’s romantic hopes. For dating tips, POZ hooked up with HIVer Sheri Kaplan, founder and exec director of Positive Connections in Miami.

“Get out, get out, get out,” Kaplan told us. You’re unlikely to meet your match among the population of your home.

The internet has Kaplan’s approval when it comes to rural scene-sters. She recommends www.positiveconnections.org (her own site), www.heterochat.org, www.livingpositive.com and www.hivstraight.com.

Single HIVer support groups can make ideal hunting grounds.

Community social organizations arrange mixers, dinners and other meet-and-greets. Positive Connections’ weeklong annual cruise, for instance, usually reels in a marriage or two, according to Kaplan.

Dating neggies can increase your possibilities—and confidence.

“Disclose, when physical intimacy seems imminent,” Kaplan said. Preferably after a few dates, when you’ve gotten to know the person.

he best strategy is the simplest: “I have to tell you something about me before we take this to the next level.” Deep breath. Then: “If you want to be with me, I’ll teach you about it.”

If you’re rejected, don’t take it personally—they’re reacting to fear, not you.

Above all, Kaplan told us, “Remember you are not your disease. Be confident in who you are.”

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