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The Clock Watchers

After Ibn Zuhur

Stayin’ Alive: A Game Plan

I Wanna New Drug!

In Cold Blood

Unfine China

Maine Idea

Bayer's BIG Headache

Neg & Pos

Gone Shopping

The Bug Stops Here



For Pete's Sake

Wake-Up Call

Heavenly & Hazardous

Shock and Blah

Publisher's Letter


O Lady Liberate:

O Cash up Front:

Tastes Great! Less Filling!

Tat Caveat

Only A Test


New Meds On The Shelf

Book Report

60% of HIVers Now Survive Lymphoma

Zip Your Lipids

Tea Cells

Paris When It Sizzled

Playing It Safe And Sexy


The Soprano


Butch And Moan

Toxic Avengers

Most Popular Lessons

The HIV Life Cycle


Herpes Simplex Virus

Syphilis & Neurosyphilis

Treatments for Opportunistic Infections (OIs)

What is AIDS & HIV?

Hepatitis & HIV

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October 2003

The Bug Stops Here

by Josh Sparber

Thirteen percent of HIVers have done the dirty without using condoms or mentioning their serostatus to negative or untested partners, according to UCSF and RAND Health researchers. POZ asked five positively randy readers: Whose job is it to bring out the jimmy hat?

Marta Hoelscher, 41, mom and homemaker, Zanesville, Ohio: “Prevention education is everyone’s responsibility, positive or not. Those of us who are positive know firsthand about this disease. The fact that positive people are having unprotected sex makes me angry — it’s irresponsibility and selfishness. These people give us all a bad name.”

Kellie Casper, 34, AIDS activist, Atlanta: “Someone who knows they are positive has a burden to disclose and protect their partner. But this does not relieve those who are negative or do not know from the responsibility of protecting themselves. We live in a victim-centric society, and it’s time for people to take responsibility.”

Thomas Francis Jones, 45, artist, San Francisco: “I used to feel it was the responsibility of the other person to ask me if I was positive or to assume that I was. As time went on, I realized I’m responsible for myself and my actions. That means taking my time getting to know someone, not letting fear of rejection make my decisions for me, and telling my HIV status.”

David Lee, 41, social worker, Seattle: “I feel that positive folks should disclose, and negative folks should ask. It’s everyone’s responsiblity to protect themselves. The real question is, why are people having unprotected sex with those whose HIV status they don’t know?”

Rhiannon, 32, writer and public speaker, Louisville, Kentucky: “My personal motto, in which I firmly believe: ‘Safe sex is no sex. Anything else, you are most likely taking a risk.’ Both parties should be held accountable for the risk of HIV or any other STD that is out in our world.”

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