August #115 : Oh, Daddy! - by David Thorpe

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Bite The Bullet

Gazing into Our Genes

Touch That Dial!

A New Med for Old HIV

Doctor's Diary - August 2005

Haart-less and Healthy

In the Swim

A Summer's Day

Block Those Rays


What, Me Sue?

Getting Out on the Job

The Bad Seed

The Sperm Cycle

Condom Wrap-up

Think Kink

Meet Our POZ Personals Catch of the Month

Ask The Sexpert-August 2005

Got Zen?

We're All Living With Nuts

Oh, Daddy!

The Real AIDS Vaccine

High Risk Offensive

Follow the Leader

Crime Blotter


HIV 411: What's Hot and What's Not

Mentors-August 2005

My So-Called Afterlife

Doctor Feel Good

Editor's Letter - August 2005

Mailbox - August 2005

Most Popular Lessons

The HIV Life Cycle


Herpes Simplex Virus

Syphilis & Neurosyphilis

Treatments for Opportunistic Infections (OIs)

What is AIDS & HIV?

Hepatitis & HIV

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August 2005

Oh, Daddy!

by David Thorpe

The first black HIVer to win “American Leatherman” wants a word with you

Kwame "Blackkat" Banks
New York City
Nonprofit Consultant

How did it feel to win? I was elated. I knew a black man had never won, so I wondered, “Is it possible?” My friends tease me; they’re like, “You’re like Vanessa Williams!” But as soon as I won, I thought, “OK, what do I have to do to live up to it?” I didn’t want to be a titleholder who just wore cute outfits.

How is Blackkat—your leather persona—going to live up to his title? I ran on a sexual-health platform. I want to do safer-sex outreach at leather events [visit]. It’s tricky because leather is about liberation, and there’s a fine line between offering a resource and dictating behavior.

You’ve already created one anti-crystal campaign for leathermen.
I was at a meeting about crystal meth, and none of the organizations for black men were there. And I advocate. If I’m in a room, I’m going to advocate for somebody. The groups there told me, “We want to do something.” The rest is history!

How does the leather community deal with HIV? The conversation happens a lot quicker. If you’re already telling somebody, “Hey, I want you to piss in my mouth,” then you’ve gotta tell them “I’m HIV positive!”

So...are you single? I have a leather family. I have a leather daddy, and I have a boy—spelled b-o-i—who is my life partner. And I have three “sons,” who I mentor. Our family is not about sex. We all have responsibilities—but my daddy does spoil me real good.

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