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Magnetic Attraction

A Shred of Understanding

Hold Your Horses

From the Editor

Accentuate the Positive


Letters-July/August 2013


Pride and Policy

POZ Planet

Say What?—Alicia Keys

Greetings from Ptown

PACHA Covers Trans Issues

Making Headlines

Latest Developments

Not Another Gay Sex Disease

Future Lovers

On a Roll


Yours in the Struggle

Care and Treatment

The Quest to Cure Another Baby

Viral Suppression Without Drugs?

The Genetic Fusion Inhibitor

New Retention Guidelines Urge Partnerships

Mapping Viral and Immune Coevolution

Research Notes

Prevention: PrEP May Be Cost-Effective

Treatement: Can Bees Sting Away HIV?

Cure: HDAC Inhibitors May Fight HIV Reservoir

Concerns: Hep C Transmission Among Gay Men

POZ Survey Says

Accentuate the Negative

POZ Heroes

Chemical Crusader

Most Popular Lessons

The HIV Life Cycle


Herpes Simplex Virus

Syphilis & Neurosyphilis

Treatments for Opportunistic Infections (OIs)

What is AIDS & HIV?

Hepatitis & HIV

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July / August 2013

Hold Your Horses

by Trenton Straube

Can barebacking be safer sex?

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In 1997, Tony Valenzuela was an up-and-coming LGBT rights activist, open about his HIV-positive status and viewed by many as a beacon of the movement’s future. But the goodwill soured when, during an impromptu speech at the Creating Change Conference, he talked about the gay sex that dared not speak its name: barebacking. “Naively, I did not believe it would be controversial to discuss openly what I knew many of us were experiencing privately,” he recalls. But controversial it was. Valenzuela was both pilloried and praised—which landed him in 1999 on one of POZ’s most memorable covers, riding a horse, sans saddle. Meanwhile, the term “barebacking” became branded, indelibly, into our discourse.

Much has changed on the HIV landscape since then, but our attitudes about gay sex remain stuck in the age of the dial-up modem. Just this year, New York City researchers Luis Freddy Molano, MD, and Renato Barucco released the results of their survey on the sexual habits of gay men who seek partners via hookup apps like Grindr. One finding made headlines as if it were a national scandal: Nearly half of them didn’t use condoms.

The ensuing coverage and commentary were framed in disapproval, shame and condemnation. So let’s unclutch the pearls and start a rational conversation about barebacking in 2013, specifically in terms of risk for HIV-negative men.

In its broadest sense, barebacking simply refers to condomless anal sex, usually between men. In the ’90s, still a time of unfathomable loss and grief, the phrase was charged with flagrant transgression. Barebackers had death wishes, according to sensational media reports. They were “bug chasers” and “gift givers,” hedonists with no regard for their fellow brethren. Today, the rhetoric has calmed, but the term barebacking remains problematic.

Many HIV prevention experts tend to define barebacking as intentional condomless sex when a risk of HIV is present. This differentiates it from, say, condomless sex between two positive men with undetectable viral loads. Which raises an interesting point: Not every act of skin-on-skin sex is unsafe.

“Let’s stop calling it barebacking,” suggests Valenzuela, who today, in addition to his gay health advocacy work, is the executive director of the Lambda Literary Foundation. “While sex without a condom can be a fetish for some, for most, it’s simply one of the ways they have sex some of the time.”

In general, surveys going back to the late ’80s have found that roughly half of men who have sex with men (MSM) report not using a condom during anal intercourse. But what, exactly, is revealed by a survey question that asks, “Did you have unprotected sex in the last 90 days?” There’s no context: Was this encounter with a negative partner? Is he your main partner? Have you both been tested?

To get a better handle on this subject, Joshua Rosenberger, PhD, assistant professor at George Mason University, and his team conducted a survey in 2010 of 14,750 MSM and asked about the last time they had anal sex. No surprise that 54 percent did not use a condom. But here’s the standout statistic: In total, only 2.5 percent of the respondents reported ejaculation in their partner’s or their own anus without a condom.

Although HIV risk is present without ejaculation inside the anus, it is much greater with. “Men are engaging in a variety of behaviors that might be risk reduction strategies,” Rosenberger says. “And while I’m not promoting ‘barebacking,’ if there’s no risk of disease transmission”—if both men are negative and monogamous, for example—“then these men shouldn’t be included when we talk about men most at risk for HIV. We need to rethink how we calculate risk.”

Thanks to other researchers such as Alex Carballo-Diéguez, PhD, and Perry Halkitis, PhD, we’re amassing a body of knowledge on gay sexual practices. We know gay men use condoms more than straight guys (who average 25 to 30 percent condom usage). We know that gay guys understand how HIV is transmitted. We know that barebacking, like alcohol and drug use, can offer an escape from racism, homophobia, loneliness, anxiety and depression—and that it can also offer a spiritual and intimate bond, not to mention a thrilling gage of manhood. We know that recent increases in syphilis and gonorrhea rates indicate an uptick in condomless sex. We know that once a couple decide to ditch condoms, they’re less likely to start using them again in the relationship and that they’re more likely to bareback with other partners. We know that condomless sex is more common in Internet hookups, and that it’s more likely in the presence of drug and alcohol use (but don’t place all the blame on Grindr or Manhunt or meth, Halkitis says, because condomless sex will go on without them). We know that positive guys are more likely to bareback—and to do it with other poz men. And we know that African-American MSM and younger MSM report wearing condoms more often than their older white contemporaries.

But wait—we also know that, despite the overall stability of the U.S. epidemic in recent years, HIV rates among young MSM ages 13 to 24 are increasing about 22 percent, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Clearly, these boys are lying about safer sex, right?

Not necessarily, explains Jonathan Mermin, MD, MPH, director of the Division of HIV/AIDS Prevention at the CDC. “If you only look at incidence—the number of new infections per year—you sometimes miss the bigger picture, which is that prevalence—the number of people living with HIV—is going up,” he says. In fact, it has gone up 60 percent in the past 15 years. That means there are more people today living with HIV. The numbers are pronounced in some communities—such as black MSM—and as a result those guys have a much higher chance of coming in contact with someone who is positive, even if they don’t have a lot of sexual partners. Mathematical modeling using a conservative 2.39 percent HIV incidence suggests that half of all gay men who are 22 years old today will be HIV positive by the time they’re 50. Young black MSM face even worse odds.

In other words, a spike in the number of new HIV cases can’t always be directly blamed on a spike in condomless sex.

What’s more, Mermin points out, 60 percent of HIV-positive people younger than 24 don’t know their status. “If you don’t know your status, you’re less likely to take precautions to protect others and less likely to access treatment, which will not only help you live longer but also reduce your chance of transmission [by lowering the amount of virus in your body fluids].”

Jeff Huyett is a nurse practitioner at Callen-Lorde Community Health Center who has been working with gay men since the 1980s. When his clients disclose that they’re going bare, a conversation like this often unfolds: “My boyfriend said he was negative so we decided not to use rubbers.” “When did he last test, and when was his last sexual partner?” “Oh, I didn’t ask that, but I trust him. He’s awesome.” “Well, studies show that most guys are not monogamous in the long term, and if he’s barebacking with you, chances are he has barebacked with others. This person could have HIV.”

It has been estimated that 68 percent of new MSM infections occur within relationships. What’s more, 55 percent of young gay couples ditch condoms before three months—46 percent of them do so without first discussing it. In a cruel twist, it turns out that being in a relationship is a risk for HIV. Which makes sense because, as the late POZ journalist Stephen Gendin wrote back in 1997: “The connection feels closer and more intimate. The sharing of cum on the physical level heightens the sense of sharing on the emotional and spiritual planes.” And what’s wrong with that? Gay men are just as entitled to fully realized sexuality as any other human beings.

Indeed, for some couples who know their status and aren’t fooling around, Huyett says, condomless sex makes sense. He tells such guys to first get tested for herpes 1 and 2, syphilis, and hepatitis A, B and C. And to get screened in three orifices—the throat, penis and anus—for chlamydia and gonorrhea. The same goes for HIV-positive couples.

“In the old days before AIDS,” Huyett recalls, “if you were out fooling around, you went to the health department every three months and got tested and treated [for sexually transmitted infections]. When HIV came around, we started using condoms, and that whole thing went to the wayside.”

Maybe it’s time to revisit this habit. Vigilance against STIs, many of which can go unnoticed, is a vital part of HIV prevention. STIs increase viral load, which makes positive men more infectious, and they increase inflammation, which makes negative men more susceptible.

Condoms help protect against these other STIs, so why not just double down on condom messaging? For starters, explains Susan Buchbinder, MD, of the University of California at San Francisco, such behavioral interventions have increased condom use by only about 20 percent. Much hope has been placed on biomedical prevention, a.k.a. chemoprophylaxis, which allows for condom-free intimacy with less HIV risk. Post-exposure prophylaxis and pre-exposure prophylaxis, PEP and PrEP, are when HIV-negative people take meds to prevent infection; and treatment as prevention, TasP, refers to the idea that positive people on regimens have undetectable viral loads and are unlikely to pass the virus.

These show great promise. For example, men who have trouble using condoms in the heat of the moment might be more compelled to take a daily pill during the sober light of day. But the cold reality is that PEP isn’t easy to attain, PrEP (at nearly $1,000 a month) isn’t affordable for most, and only about a quarter of HIV-positive Americans are virally suppressed.

To reduce their risks without condoms, some guys try serosorting (having sex only with people of your HIV status) and seropositioning (topping if you’re negative; bottoming if you’re positive). But seroadaptation tactics aren’t foolproof, and like chemoprophylaxis, they don’t do a lick of good against other STIs.

Condoms remain the most accessible, affordable and effective protection. With the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation offering $100,000 grants to build a better condom, and the Origami Condom company developing the world’s first condom specifically for anal sex (it’s silicone and for the receptive partner, not the top), one thing is certain: We’re not giving up on condoms.

Condom use “is never going to be 100 percent,” says Michael Weinstein, president of the AIDS Healthcare Foundation. “But if we don’t promote it, it’s going to go down.” Likewise, if we don’t promote sex education and more frequent HIV testing, we’ll see more virus. Halkitis notes, for example, that many young MSM today don’t fully understand the “window period” of infection (when you might test negative and yet be highly contagious). “We’ve sort of abandoned the education,” he says, “and this new generation needs it.”

Queer empowerment advocate Jeton Ademaj agrees. Serosorting failed to keep him negative, and today he supports chemoprophylaxis as a way to enjoy “natural sex” with lowered HIV risk. In addition to promoting testing and education, Ademaj says, we also must focus on linkage to care and adherence to meds, plus the related issues that prevent them. “There needs to be a bold effort to sell these things to the community, because as a total package, we now have the tools to end HIV.”

In a country that allows abstinence-only education and “no-homo-promo” laws, in a culture that often views sex as a sin deserving of disease, and in an LGBT community that’s more focused on marriage equality and employment discrimination than on HIV, it’s imperative that we speak truthfully about sexual health. We need a public dialogue that’s more nuanced than “wear a condom every time.”

Valenzuela, the ’90s bareback cover boy, says the smartest conversations about condomless sex take place where they began: in gay men’s sexual subcultures such as hook-up apps, websites, sex parties and leather bars. “That’s where I believe there’s a high level of sophistication and self-determination around why and how we negotiate sex without condoms.”

Now, let’s get everyone else to join the conversation.  

Search: Tony Valenzuela, Creating Change Conference, Luis Freddy Molano, Renato Barucco, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, University of California at San Francisco, serosorting, Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation

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compassion, , 2013-07-13 07:21:36
bareback has always, to me, brought about thoughts of violence, which i have never found to be sexy. also the conversation about STI need to be opened up. HPV and Herpes can cause horrific and deadly issues for everyone, especially Poz folks and I speak from my personal situation. Neither of these STI"s can be prevented by having safe sex so how does one Really proceed w/out the knowledge that you may bring significant harm to your partner? Again, this feels more like violence than sex to me

Jeton Ademaj, Harlem, NYC, 2013-07-12 23:58:43
Ajax, thanks for bringing the sexual neuroses, it has informed so much safer sex campaigning that if u hadn't shown up, i'd have had to make u up. The anus and rectum are delightful examples of Nature's parsimony, ably serving multiple purposes. in men, that includes erotic stimulation from being penetrated via a penis stimulating a man's prostate gland. furthermore, as many a well-hung top can tell u, once u successfully and gently breach past the rectum, things r ably self-lubricating! U FAIL.

ajax, New York, 2013-07-12 07:45:04
The problem with anal sex is that the anus and rectum were created to be exit only to expel feces from the body, not to receive a penis. There is no natural lubrication in the anus as there is in the vagina. The cellular lining of the anus is thin and rips and tears easily when penetrated, becoming a super highway for blood borne diseaes. This is kind of why gay men have such high rates of HIV infection. We should never expect a good outcome from abnormal behavior. Don't mix sex and poop, it is bad for your health.

Tom, Lake Elsinore, CA, 2013-07-11 23:42:55
Jim, we seem to have very different definitions of "need". I have friends who've been kicked off assistance and don't know how they're going to pay. One went without. I personally carry medical debt. We will die without these drugs. Meanwhile, there seems an endless amount of help for people who just don't feel like using condoms. Your longevity with the virus has nothing to do with anything, and we have every right to be furious that Gilead is paying for people's tests while costs grow.

Fidelio, San Antonio, 2013-07-11 17:37:21
According to a reputable and widely-cited study, about 50% of men in a relationship are "open". We know condoms are important if not in a committed relationship and we understand being in a monogamous relationship allows more flexibility in the bedroom, but what happens when you intersect the two? Open relationships, in my view, are what needs examining. It seems some gay men are confusing their sexual identity with indulgent behavior. In this regard, I say it's time to grow up.

Steve H, St. Paul, MN, 2013-07-11 16:40:39
"condomless sex between two positive men with undetectable viral loads" -- is still reckless and stupid. Want to swap separately-mutated strains? Oh, GREAT idea. Duh.

Dean, , 2013-07-11 08:06:33
The problem I find with gay men in regards to barebacking and relationships is that they are more concerned with getting people to use condoms and leaving it there. I take issue with the article in stating that men in general will be sleeping around even when in a relationship. No, not all men do. Though admit we sleep around more than our straight counterparts. Fidelity along with sex education needs to be drilled home.

Jim Pickett, Chicago, 2013-07-10 18:47:39
And to the commenter who mentioned me and the need for POZ people to have access to ARVs ... I am 18 years in to my HIV+ diagnosis, I fully understand the need for people living with HIV to have access to ARVs. Supporting PrEP for negative people is not about stealing from any other population - it is about getting ARV drugs to the people who need them, POZ or NEG. And btw, Gilead and all pharma have compassionate access programs for POZ ppl. And the US has the AIDS Drug Assistance Program...

Jim Pickett, Chicago, 2013-07-10 18:45:10
It is important to note that about half of gay men have not been using condoms since the mid 1980's. Half. Have. Not. Been. Using. Condoms. Better to use PrEP and protect against HIV - arguably the most serious of STDs - than have zero protection, eh? People who don't use condoms - for whatever reason - should have choices beyond condoms. Truvada as PrEP is not a perfect choice -what is? But it works really well to prevent HIV. And that is super important.

Jack, New York, 2013-07-10 14:19:21
I believe negative people should absolutley protect themselves by ASSUMING any partner including a BF has an STI. That being said, if HIV positive people choose to practice Natural sex & sero-sort - that is an informed choice. A hetero woman once warned me in 1998 about a new thing the gays invented called barebacking. She said it caused aids.I will not feel guilty for practicing Natural sex with other POZ guys, when straight people are not villified for doing the same. Protection is personal!

nelson vergel, Houston, 2013-07-10 12:38:33
Excellent article!! Probably the best I have read. It is so refreshing to see a writer do his homework.

Jeton Ademaj, Harlem, NYC, 2013-07-10 09:28:10
to oliver, how about just "NO"? does "no" work for you? just saying "NO" to condoms works awesomely for me and many others...whereas condoms failed me quite perfectly, hence my POZ status. in my own case a broad-spectrum chemoprophylaxis enables Protected Sex of unmatchable intensity. far preferable to the strangled, cauterized n plexiglassed sexual life of rubbers. to POZ STAFF, i DONT agree w Michael Weinstein...he n his AHF believe they can force condom-use by attacking PrEP and Natural Sex.

Tapirai Gumbo, Harare, 2013-07-10 00:22:48
i admit that most people do baresex once did that bt regretd, it was a hook-up, bt i went to get tested after 8 months and testd negative, bt i vowed to use rubber and nt to risk myself again, For us to be a H.I.V free generation we should use rubbers, and its true that the gay community is promiscus, they want to experiment wth the chubby, muscular, tall, slim guys bt buy doing ths ths leads to risks of being infected!! If u not carefull u wl slp wth every1 in the gay community, lets get tested regulary

Tom, Lake Elsinore, CA, 2013-07-09 23:00:22
Hey Jim, too bad that there are still Americans with HIV who need Truvada, right? Oh well, f**k them, I guess that what's important is that "Mr. Happy" is happy. Is anyone else is loving their $200 copays while gilead provides PrEP "4 free" to people who don't feel like using condoms? Small price to pay for "natural sex", if you don't have to shoulder any of your medicine's cost. There isn't enough Fulyzaq in the world to slow the diarrhea of credibility these Big pharma reps exhibit.

Tom, Lake Elsinore, CA, 2013-07-09 22:44:31
"HIV is not the only STD to be concerned about." I second this. Advocating a "prevention" paradigm around a single STD is the height of stigma and HORRIBLE healthcare education. HIV is not the only STD you can catch. It's not even the worse. People could be forgiven for thinking otherwise after hearing the pro-chemoprophylaxis camp.

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