April 10, 2013
HIV and the Power of Escape
by Perry Halkitis
A health professor reflects on why some long-term survivors have used sex and substances to cope.
For the last six months I have been working on my new book, The AIDS Generation. In this work, I share the life stories and strategies for survival of 15 incredible gay men infected with the virus as young adults in the first decade of AIDS, and who now, having survived the plague, find themselves in middle age.
During the course of writing last fall, we lost our brilliant colleague Spencer Cox. This event and the flurry of speculative articles that emerged as a result of Spencer's death inspired me to reflect further on this idea of survival, and specifically, how some of the men of the AIDS Generation relied on strategies, specifically frequent and anonymous sexual encounters and the use of substances—acts rarely deemed as honorable—to cope with HIV in a time of little hope. The tragic loss of Spencer, coupled with what I was hearing in the interviews I conducted for the book, prompted me to try to recast our understanding about these "bad behaviors" in a somewhat different light.
For the men of the AIDS Generation, substance use served several purposes bestowing behavioral, cognitive and emotional benefits, and for many there also were complex attributions assigned to sex, including but not limited to an affirmation of self. This is how I come to understand the role of sex and drugs in the lives of the men of the AIDS Generation. While not all of the men whom I interviewed partook in ongoing sexual adventurism or in the use of substances, for some, these behaviors were key to their lives as they ameliorated the ongoing reality of living with HIV. In the absence of any effective treatment, and surrounded by death, some of these men relied on these behaviors to manage their emotionally burdened lives.
For many men of the AIDS Generation, sex, including unprotected sex, provided an emotional connection, a validation of self, and an ability to perceive oneself as more than simply a vessel for transmitting HIV. Richard, one of the men whose life is explored in the book, avoided the inevitability of his diagnosis until 1993. In our discussion, he expressed the role of limitless sex post diagnosis as follows: "There was a certain acceptance I wanted through sex because I was positive."
A similar approach emerged with regard to substance use. Despite the fact the behavioral literature often portrays drug use as causal of seroconversion, the reliance on substances does not always precede the diagnosis, but rather is the result of it. In our own recent study of gay male crystal meth users, we found 65 percent of these men initiated use after they had seronverted. This temporal association between HIV and substance use also was illustrated in the story of Gianni, now 49 years old, and diagnosed in 1998 who was not heavily reliant on substances prior to the personal trauma incurred caused by the AIDS epidemic: "There was too much death. I was scared. Partying and sex helped me deal."
For the men of the AIDS Generation when death was an inevitability, sex and substances provided an escape, not only from the realities of AIDS, but also from the stigma and discrimination experienced by so many of us growing up as gay men, and living our adult lives as HIV-positive gay men. To judge and belittle the reliance on sex and substances as deficient or harmful fails to understand the complexity of the lived experience of these men, during the height of the AIDS crisis.
To say that conditions have improved since the implementation of antiretroviral therapies is only partially true. HIV disease is more than a medical condition, and is one that transgresses emotional and social states, to which we poorly attend, neglecting the trauma of this diagnosis during the height of the epidemic and even to this day. And for many long-term survivors, the years of trauma inflicted by the AIDS epidemic is just too much to bear, made somewhat more tolerable by escaping. This is not to say that I am advocating for limitless amounts of anonymous sex and use of substances as the sole means for coping with HIV. Rather we should all have a little more compassion and try to truly understand what it means to be living with HIV and what it meant particularly for men like Spencer—men of the AIDS generation.
Perry N. Halkitis, PhD, is a professor of applied psychology, public health and population health at New York University, where he also is an associate dean for research and doctoral studies. This article was originally published on The Huffington Post.
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Frederick Wright, Coachela Vally, 2013-04-13 08:35:49
Mr Halktis is seemly trying to bring a lot of knowledge together with hopes for more forgiveness to come together for the wounded veterans in the War to End AIDS. Yes seemly the war on AIDS is over for many, but still like many great wars it takes generations after generations for the healing of all the trauma. Healing of this PTSD for me can only come through forgiveness and self forgiveness. I did not know Spencer Cox in his warrior spirit. I thank God that his LIFE helped me to live today.
Phx Pup, Phoenix, 2013-04-11 17:45:40
As a survivor of Meth and Alcohol and as member of the POZ world I am anxious to read your book. I came out in the 80's, everyone was dying, we partied to forget. I used meth to feel better about myself and amazingly avoided HIV until 15yrs after getting clean but I saw how our poz brothers needed to feel connected and I know the damage caused by my use. I am fortunate that I have made a succesful life for myself and I am with a partner who has survived 25yrs of HIV. Thank you for your insight.
Bill, , 2013-04-11 16:07:17
As a long term suvivor, I know first hand that this is a topic that needs to be discussed in the open. I look forward to reading your book.
hardtopftl, Fort Lauderdale, 2013-04-11 13:52:49
as a long term survivor - 25+ years, sex has become the only way I can achieve intimacy, however fleeting it may be. That fuels the desire for more. I have been lucky to "keep my nose clean" and avoid substances other than alcohol, and that was used as a cure for boredom and an evening escape from reality until I could fall asleep. And I have recently stopped using it. The result so far, I am sleeping more than ever - another escape. I look forward to reading your book.
woolfman, detriot, 2013-04-11 12:11:46
I have been POZ since early 90s and have had a sexual problem now this article brings light to my baggage
Jason Farrell, Amsterdam, Netherlands, 2013-04-11 12:05:44
As a native New Yorker living with HIV since 1990 and heterosexual, I agree there have been some incredible gay men who survived. However there have been some incredible hetero men who have survived as well. Some of us have been very involved in AIDS activism and have struggled with substance use and mental health demons. Many of us are former drug users/injectors and have found ways to cope living with HIV over the past 20 years with and without drug use and reckless sexual behaviours.
John, New York, 2013-04-11 10:57:26
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As a man who has survived hiv since 1986, I closely relate to this article. I struggle to stay away from meth and annonomous sex because it is always followed by complications. I wait and hope patiently to find physical connection by normal means, yet mostly I find endless loneliness and the realization that I am increasingly more stigmatized by my own community. I've come so far and I've suffered so long. There are times when being without the physical comfort of another man becomes unbearable
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