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Leading Ladies

Wonder Women

Crystal Clear

Go With the Flow

A Tell-Tale Heart

Going Rogue

Medicine Chest

Shifting the Starting Lines

The Power of Pampering

POZ Q&A: Senator Kirsten Gillibrand

Big Talk in the Big Apple

Faith in Numbers

Tropic Thunder

Are You Positive You’re Negative?

Editor's Letter-March 2010

Your Feedback-March 2010

In Memoriam

GMHC Treatment Issues-March 2010

Most Popular Lessons

The HIV Life Cycle


Herpes Simplex Virus

Syphilis & Neurosyphilis

Treatments for Opportunistic Infections (OIs)

What is AIDS & HIV?

Hepatitis & HIV

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March 2010

Wonder Women

by Laura Whitehorn and Staff

Women are uniquely vulnerable to HIV. Lack of self-esteem, few resources, gender power imbalances, legal and political limitations, societal misperceptions and even basic biology have contributed to the fact that HIV/AIDS is now the No. 1 cause of disease and death among women ages 15 to 44 worldwide. But many women are not taking the assault lying down. On the next pages we feature first-person accounts of seven amazing women who told POZ about how they not only overcome HIV every day, but also help their sisters along the way. 

Women and HIV. Once upon a time, those two words were seldom found in a sentence together. In the early 1990s, the AIDS activist group ACT UP made a T-shirt that read: “Say It: Women Get AIDS” because so few people beyond the HIV community knew that women could get HIV. Over time, things have changed dramatically, and in November 2009, the World Health Organization (WHO) announced that HIV/AIDS is now the leading cause of disease and death among women of childbearing age (15 to 44) worldwide. (That’s been true in the United States since 1995 for African-American women between the ages of 25 and 44.) Yet despite these staggering statistics, much of the world still misperceives HIV as a disease that only happens to men. And this misperception—along with a variety of other social, biological, psychological, political and economic factors—contributes to the raging spread of HIV among women and girls.

Women are especially vulnerable to contracting HIV for the many reasons you will hear about on the following pages, in the stories of seven remarkable women living with HIV around the United States. The particulars of women’s heightened risk include the specifics of female biology; high rates of sexual abuse and gender-based violence; battles for self-esteem and respect; women’s need to be accepted by sexual partners; a chronic lack of resources and income; and homophobia, which can drive lesbians to unsafe and unhealthy practices. The cycle is vicious: Without access to the same opportunities and rights as men, women may end up in situations where they need to be subordinate to men in order to provide for their own survival (or that of their children). This fundamental power imbalance too often puts even the strongest and most self-directed women in positions that lead them to compromise themselves. In such cases, women sometimes take risks or engage in practices they know will endanger their health, putting themselves in harm’s way because that is what is necessary for them and their families to survive. There is bitter irony in the notion that many women contract a deadly disease while they are struggling to stay alive.

What was most interesting to us when conducting these interviews, which we edited as first-person narratives, was how a woman’s self-sacrifice—an arguably admirable quality—can make her especially vulnerable to contracting HIV, and even keep her from caring for her health once she tests positive. And what was equally compelling was the notion that, when women contract HIV and find the courage to face fighting the disease, they often fight not only for their own lives, but also for those of the people around them. Over the years, POZ has found that positive women don’t move from a place of vulnerability to one of empowerment alone—they take other women with them. As we interviewed these seven women, one refrain resounded: “Now that I know what I know, I will share it with my sisters.” As usual, when greeted with a mess, women get to work taking care of those they love—together. And their combined tales, recounted on the following pages, prove that nothing, not even HIV/AIDS, has the power to keep a good woman down when she sets her mind to survive—and to fight.

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Ingrid Kloet, Rio Rancho NM, 2010-03-01 14:47:27
Dear friends I like to thank you from the bottem of my heart for the kind words. It feels so good to receive so many responses here and in my email, I feel truly blessed with so many friends, some of them I know in person many of them not, and it is from all over the world, I like to say thank you to all of you and really appriciate what you are doing for me. Warmly, have a great weekend. Ingrid

Dragonfly, , 2010-02-26 22:44:08
You are truly a survivor, a beautiful, brilliant, unselfish survivor. We have never actually met, but through our conversations I feel as if I have known you my entire life. Keep doing what you do, for me, for you, for all the HIV pos. people every where. We need more people like you and I proudly call you my friend.

Richard Brodsky, Atlantic Beach, 2010-02-24 13:35:57
Ingrid, you're a fighter and always have been. It's great how you look after your sisters and magazines like POZ cover our stories. One day maybe I can get you to revisit Kenya for the World AIDS Marathon, Last year we had the best time as we sponsored 3 orphan dinner dances for 700 orphans and one of them was in Kendu Bay, the ancestral home of President Obama's family.

saum Hassan, Nairobi, Kenya, 2010-02-22 18:11:55
God bless you, that is good work, you are doing, for really you have Inspir us, and others who dont know anything about HIV/AIDS. it is time people come out and tslk about it, in our muslim communit it is still a problem, but now you really helped US, thank again.we are praying for you, and you will live long, God bless you.

Kauthar Bitok, Ekdoret, Kenya, 2010-02-22 17:58:23
Hi Darling, Thank you so much for opening your heart and shareing this you have so, tachted many other peoples hearts, I belive anybady why will read this, will went to know ther HIV status. I am too Positive Living with HIV, and this is really encouraging. God bless you as you keep helping others,

Christine Harris, Buda, 2010-02-22 03:55:18
Ingrid ~ Thank you for sharing your story. You are truly an amazing women and an Excellent example for all.

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