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October 11, 2013

Byanca Parker

Theresa Kenney
Byanca Parker
Dallas, Texas
Positive since 1993

I am 20 years old. I was born HIV positive but wasn't diagnosed with HIV until I was seven. I got HIV from my mother—she passed away from AIDS in 2003. I wasn't told I was HIV positive until I was in the 6th grade. It was scary and confusing.

At the time I had no idea what HIV was or how it would affect my life, but it did explain why I took so many pills and got sick a lot. 

Once I knew I had HIV, I started to remember how I had watched my mother get sicker and sicker each week. So I knew it had to be serious.

Now, I know so many people who were born with HIV. I don't think it's fair for an innocent baby to come into this world fighting for its life because the parents didn't get tested or know their status.

I meet people all the time who have contracted HIV who have said, "I didn't think it could happen to me." I want to share my story and help save lives anyway that I possibly can. I want to help motivate others to get tested and know their status.

What three adjectives best describe you?
Persistent, optimistic, intelligent

What is your greatest achievement?
Finally being able to accept myself as being HIV positive

What is your greatest regret?
Allowing people to lower my self-esteem when I was younger

What keeps you up at night?
Things that I have no control over

If you could change one thing about living with HIV, what would it be?
My meds—the side effect are sometimes overwhelming

What person in the HIV/AIDS community do you most admire?
Dena Gray

What drives you to do what you do?
My mother and my friends that I grew up with who are also HIV positive

What is your motto?
“No one can make you feel inferior without you consent” –Eleanor Roosevelt

If you had to evacuate your house immediately, what is the one thing you would grab on the way out?
My dog, Angel. I love her with all my heart. She came into my life just when I started to think no one loved me.

If you could be any animal, what would you be? And why?
A white tiger, because they're absolutely beautiful

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Clifford Williams, Philadelphia, 2014-07-07 16:37:06
Byanca I have made you one of my hero's but you don't know me. I think you are the answer and others like us I was not born with it I guess I married into HIV, but you know what its cool today. 13years being positive I hold no anger for contracting the virus because I had a part to play. You did not, I'm sure you love your mom and in her own way your mom loves you. I think your mom gave the world something special in you,so keep doing you Ms lady keep on educating because must talk about all

Allen Robinson, St. Petersburg, 2014-05-10 16:59:52
It was good hearing about your story Byanca. I have a niece who was also born with HIV and is having a very bad time with being diagnosed. I hope she can see girls her age and she won't feel isolated. I too am positive, but she looking at me because of my age. It's breaking my heart where she is at with his status.

Latrel, , 2014-04-04 22:25:38
Thank you so much for your story. As I read it, I came into tears because you made me feel as though I am not alone. You are very courageous.

Howard G., Houston, 2014-01-19 18:20:31
I want to say that I admire you for your courage. You are an absolutely beautiful young lady that I think will go very far with your message. I wish you the best of luck Queen. Take care and know that there are so many others like you that need to hear your story

Michael S, , 2013-12-22 14:13:51
This was a great story. I hope you stay optimistic throughout life. You can achieve anything you put your mind to.

ms Chris, , 2013-12-05 00:37:05
Hi Byanca The thanks for the great words. You are a very beautiful young lady and could have been my daughter, she is 15 and was born to me and I am HIV+. Live every day to your fullest and may GOD Continue to bless u baby girl

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