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I like what I have read. I have used email to tell a guy about my HIV status and it was very positive response. He was HIV NEGATIVE, but he has had a former partner that was HIV Positive. He was educated about HIV.
I told my family and extended family in the comfort and privacy of my home. They knew something was wrong because of my extreme weight loss but they were supportive and loving. I'm a very lucky gay man!
Sounds great but it's kind of the happy ever after Nirvana young, goodlooking studs live in. Try being a gay man over 50, average looks and not hung like a horse and add on telling someone on a dating site youre interested but by the way you're undetectable, and see what percentage of guys become undetectable in the conversation. They often dissappear without even saying thanks for the honesty, good luck or live long and prosper. Same as good gay = "clean," bad gay = "unclean."
I discovered I had AIDS November of 2014. I was very open about my status mostly because I ended up in the emergency room in a very bad state. I was close to death and I truly believe my hospital and doctors brought me back to life. My faith too. So I had to be open to all my family and friends that visited me and prayed for me. They were not judgmental at all, very supportive and my whole experience became like a blessing to me, I'm fortunate to have such a family and friends.
I have tried all different ways, and I hate dealing with it. So, if I'm hooking up, I say nothing - responsibility and accountability works both ways. Want me to wear a condom, ok. But if you don't ask, why should I have to tell you? As for dating, that's a different story. I enjoy the first date, go old fashioned and promise myself no sex, then if I'm asked out again I say "I need to tell you something." Not saying my way is the best, but it works for me and keeps me sane.
I reveal up front. I do this because my emotions are valuable, and I want to know if they are worth my time. They usually turn and run, and that let's me know it would have been a waste to wait and tell.
Cedric A Harmon
Thank you for publishing this important and much needed article. As highlighted in the piece, so many are crushed under the weight of stigma and religious shaming. I was especially grateful for the wise words of encouragement from Robert Gillum reminding us that Every time you tell the truth a weight falls off. My one suggestion is to consider devoting articles of this sort to a single interviewee. I found myself wanting to know more about Robert's story and insights from his journey.
January 31, 2016 • Washington, DC