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I'm sorry I agree with Ianbeal, I have been out 42 years,dating apps won't work if you don't look right, me and friends in the 80's dealt with no fats no fems no blacks,I have met and dated wonderful men of all races,but gay men are hard as hell on each other, seeking that elusive perfect man,you younger gays,don't discard a great man because he's not perfect, you may regret it years from now,at 66 I can deal with stigama and racism,but there still is a lot of great men out there of all races.
It’s a laudable goal to reduce stigma & racism by any means necessary, however, it’s not realistic. Gay men are notorious for categorizing each other: too short, too fat, too old, doesn’t work out, not the ethnicity I’m attracted to. As a black man, it’s disappointing to read a man is not attracted to me based on the one factor over which I have no control. On the other hand, reading between the lines in such a profile does spare unnecessary heartache or rejection.
If you want to avoid stigma, try not engaging in stigmatizing behavior. Much stigma exists for good, legitimate reasons.
What a great project with a horrible name, "Nice AF". Why use an acronym for a vulgar expression that alienate some? How is that inclusive? I also object to the blanket use of the term 'queer' to describe the entire LGBTQIA+ Diaspora. The word 'queer' is an insulting slur to myself and many others, I'd suggest reading Merrill Perlman's 2019 Columbia Journalism Review article about the subject. And stop using the slur as a blanket term. Johnathan (they/he)
David
While it is well meaning, this is never going to end stigma. Gay men and LGBT people judge each other all the time, and if someone does not want to date me because of my race, only for my race, or for other reasons I am glad they are honest instead of lying and playing games the way most gay men do. Many people who are living with HIV/AIDS only date or have sex with other people who are also HIV+, and condoms are used to avoid getting re-infected or infecting someone else with another strain.
October 13, 2021 • NYC