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Come on guys, if you are dating on Grindr and you want to be safe, you have to be responsible for your own protection, no way you can rely on asking the horny stranger who is about to bb you if he's clean, what, you think he's gonna say, "oh, no sorry I'm poz, let me call an Uber and go home", and anyway, why were you gonna get bb from a compete stranger anyway? If you're having unprotected anal with a random online date you're either kinda dumb of you're asking for it. GET REAL!
Nick.....the law is about not disclosing. How does not knowing, yet wondering, about your status make one not responsible for spreading the virus? If you wonder if you should be tested, you're wondering if you're infected. Not much moral wiggle room there. It is our responsibility to inform, particularly if the sex involves risk. A hand job? No risk. Unprotected anal..lot's of risk. Not knowing does not decrease the risk. Not knowing does not reduce the moral obligation to others.
This is outrageous considering you can murder someone and serve less time. Just this week in the Canchola-Sylvester Austin boyfriend case where the alleged killer only got 6 mos. Because actual murder has less stigma than an std and sex this is the outcome.
Whole heartedly agree with Nick 43, without the stigma people could be tested and anyone found poz could be treated which would go a long way to reducing transmission.
I disclosed.. I was drugged and gang raped. I was in hospital for 3 weeks, amnesia, PSTD and toxic poisoning. I lost 60 1bs in weight, my hair was falling out and I had no recollection for years. The nightmares told the story, the flashbacks and anger and emotional roller coaster. I got all my hospital records to figure out what happened. It stated I had dementia. And I was sedated to keep me in the hospital....go figure. HIV and you get treated a certain way. I am lucky to be alive!
I think if you have a communicable disease and you know it then it is on you to inform others of it. The responsibility lies there 100% in my opinion. Of course, one should always protect oneself but it is not always possible especially when deception is involved. I also think that not getting tested because you are afraid of being charged makes no sense. If you get tested you know your status. If you are positive, you treat and disclose. If not, you protect your neg status.
Amazing, one of the most dangerous threats facing the HIV community ever and it gets 4 comments after weeks of being on the poz.com website. Do you all get the impression like I do that poz.com goes out of its way to make sure comments are suppressed? Even if you make a comment, it gets buried so deep in the bowels of the "articles" that nobody can even read it.
Joseph
Criminalizing the non-disclosure of HIV is outdated and discriminatory, especially with the advances in treatment and science (U=U). HIV- folks cannot pass on the responsibility of their own sexual health onto others. That's ridiculous. It's a 50-50 deal. Too easy to blame others. You gotta own what you do. Relying on others' disclosure as a form of protection and deciding what type of risks you will take with that person is exactly how you increase your chances of getting infected.
November 20, 2017