Positive since 1985
I have been positive 28 years and am still counting T-cells. Here’s to the value of self-disclosure.
Why have I survived 28 years?
- To integrate meditation and yoga in my life
- To attain a Master of Arts degree
- To live up to my responsibilities
- To care for mom
- To reinvent myself once again
- To continue to dream and dream big
- To participate in vaccine trials to benefit others
- To survive cancer with HIV
- To acquire a dash of wisdom and knowledge to guide me into my future by living in the present
- To honor all of those who have gone before me
- To help thousands of patients and families with their end of life journeys
- To inter my brother into the red soil of Colorado. "Roger, out."
- To respectfully eulogize my father
- To tote my lover’s ashes to Denny, Scotland. "Rest Laird, rest."
- To experience wailing and profound lamenting and in time surface beyond those deeply experiential words
- To fall into the chasm of addiction and to recover daily
- To frame my life’s puzzle and fill it in piece by tedious piece
- To inform my sexual perpetrators they were wrong, even if I was destined to become a gay man
- To carry a C movie as the lead character. “Vladimir has a killer idea."
- To heal myself, that I may heal others
- To have had great lovers and moved on
- To appreciate beauty—and on occasion—to have created it
- To have directed some wonderful theater, especially for and with kids
- To collect residuals
- To have found a path however it may vary in width and direction
- To evolve through education and teach others
- To have the desire for 27 more answers and 27 more years. So at the age of 82, I can ask why I have survived 27 more years and care nothing of T-cells because I have cured myself to live a complete life
- To inform my 88-year old mother that her sister and son died five months apart in 2012. Let’s hope reason #29 will be better news
What three adjectives best describe you?
Resilient, alive and enthusiastic
What is your greatest achievement?
To have inspired others to be more
What is your greatest regret?
What keeps you up at night?
Mom crying out from dementia
If you could change one thing about living with HIV, what would it be?
The lost decade when I thought I was next
What is the best advice you ever received?
Live your purpose
What person in the HIV/AIDS community do you most admire?
What drives you to do what you do?
The desire to help
What is your motto?
Have faith in yourself, even if others do not
If you had to evacuate your house immediately, what is the one thing you would grab on the way out?
My mom, of course
If you could be any animal, what would you be? And why?
An eagle so I could soar high
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