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Thank you so much for your kind words and never give up on love!!
Just as I was reading over the article and at the first few paragraphs thinking NO NO NO you are allowing yourself to be hurt to the point of closing up and lying to yourself. Why cheapen the wonderful realationship you built with your friend ... you are hurt, let yourself have a time of mourning and healing. I realized that is what the public forum of the column was all about. You get to preach to the choir. How wonderful that you are discovering that in everything the answer becomes open your arms wider. I am goinng to be 57 ... my saving grace in the gay community is that I look 43 (lol, and this has been said by others so it's not necessarily my ego speaking ... or by the fact I bring it up - is it? ... another lol) Never-the-less, I have found that it is always with a quiet mind and a open heart I can look for the love in all things. When someone else makes a choice I find hurtful I can look to see where their brokeness exists and their hurt may have been actually been meant to have been given to me in love. It is a difficult task but it is my goal. At times I may only be able to see that they are broken and extend my own love but this is rare. The first and always though is self care so I can spread joy to others. In so doing they are able to live and I am free. I am sorry for the pain that you went through. You are right that there are few friends and it is so important for us to have that support group of friends. How wonderful you hold the wisdom and courage to embrace the wonder and awe of life to comntinue to do so.
Wow I really needed to read this divine intervention lead me to this article I usually go straight to the dating log in not anymore I've been hiding 4 years telling no one about my HIV status just my daughter on AIDS day 2013 She cried saying you've been going through this alone for 11 yrs and I didn't know I told her not to feel bad because she kept me fighting to live wanting to see her achievements Now she's 24yrs old on her own Lonely I joined the dating site I met someone 4 the first time I could break down my wall but he only wanted sex not a friend so he stop answering my text although the friendship was a lie I cried because I didn't realize until now I'm lonely and I need open relationships so tired of hiding I feel like I lost my bff..Thank You for helping me
A very poignant and well-written story...I, too had cut people off, due to a "friend" who messed with my head when I got high, and left me with a paranoid approach to meeting people; I wouldn't trust anyone. Since then, due to compassionate, true friends, as well as meditation, which helped me put things in perspective, I have pretty much snapped out of it. It is good that you allowed your emotions to express themselves; it will be easier to relate to people without having to guard your feelings. Good luck to you and thank you for sharing your experience.
very touching bu that we face every. physical and emotional insecurities. It's an encouraging piece. thank you for sharing your experience and giving hope to those who face different challenges, be it work, school, business and so on. The truth is there is not as good as been sincere and honest to others and most importantly to one self. Wish you all the best in you en devours especially in making new friends. Regards, Bellah
Dominick
It is just amazing how we ALL share a common thread with or w/out HIV...I know that feeling of buildings walls to the sky blocking everyone and everything out! I really miss just spending time and making memories with close FRIENDS...its like I just cant find friends...not nsa not fwb not lovers not partners JUST friends. I am really working my brain to see what I can do to start up some type of group to do this. One pos person to the next. Where u can be urself no judgement no frowns just true genuine friendships and conversations! I wish u the best and good journey...as spring is upon us maybe time to start fresh and start knocking down the walls!
March 27, 2013