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Little Bee

Thank you so much. I'm in the same boat. Just turned 30, college grad, white female, from a state where I believed HIV just didn't happen. I found out 2 weeks before my wedding. It wasn't my fiance, though we both ended up positive. It was my boyfriend in college, of 3.5 years, that had a secret life behind my back the whole time. I've had two partners that the health department contacted between him and my husband. I've told a few close friends and only my closest family. I'm lucky because I have a wonderful husband and partner going through this with me, too. I'm a writer, film-maker, and a stand-up comedian, and hope one day I can grapple with my own guilt, my own fear, and my own grief of this and use my platforms to spread knowledge that this is a VIRUS, and it CAN happen. It doesn't discriminate on location, race, age, gender, or sexual orientation. Thank you so much for sharing your story, because I haven't been able to find many other women like me who I can relate to right now. This is so important, and whether you stay anonymous or not, KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING. You helped me today more than you know. :)

January 20, 2015

Lili

you are so STRONG! I look up to you! I'm so sorry this happened to you, there is no way I can possibly understand what you are going through. I live in NJ and work in NY, if you ever want a shoulder to cry on or even scream at (lol), I would be more than honored to just hang out with you love lili keep us posted.

April 28, 2014

Daniel

I just found out today. Gosh I'm thankful for my best friend since he came with me. I'm still processing it all. These stories are helping me a lot and making me want to go out and help others.

February 26, 2014

Cheyenne

I am terribly sorry this has also happened to you, but that which tests us will make us stronger. I was diagnosed in June of this year with full blown AIDS. Talk about a shock to the system... Here I am, a 35 yr old graduate student and now pretty screwed. However, I dealt with it and moved on. Other than taking a pill a day ( less than I take to control my blood pressure) not too much has changed outside my sex life.

December 11, 2013

Gibreal Kangati

I had the same experience. Now I have realised that HIV is just a life condition to be managed and not a disease.

May 1, 2013

lavelle

im a 23 male and i just find out im hiv+ and it 9weeks in to it need help

February 6, 2013

Ruth

Your post is very encouraging, will have to forward to my sister as she just found out three days ago, she's poz, plus she is 4 months pregnant. Thanks for sharing x

January 6, 2013

Shashbabe

I have just been pronounced + too but I have lots of experience about this because I have some family members living positively and some even friends who supposedly died by it. The first rule is: restrict your information,limit the number of persons you will tell.You can tell one or two persons you really trust but that should be it, its your business, you can handle it because I believe in God and I know that He will not bring any burden heavier than you can handle to you. Besides,once you divulge any thing or confide in anyone other than God over an issue, it is no longer a secrete. That person will also confide in someone else and so on and so forth. So unless you want your affairs public, please keep them private. The second rule is, hold your head up high! Yes, + so what? Why is HIV such an issue? how about those Herpertitise this and that? How about cancer which is painful? How about diabetes that changes your style of living, food and all? Be thankfull that its just HIV and move on living with a positive attitude after all you are positive.

June 25, 2012

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