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Wow. That sounds pretty awful. I must confess that I enjoy hearing other people's dating disaster stories. I guess it helps me know that I'm not only one that's sat there at a table in a restaurant trying to desperately figure out just how the hell to get away from the crazy man sitting across from me.
Wow! quite an interesting story. Thanks for sharing.
Interesting story - in terms of his not being your type - howeve
Interesting story - some of it i understand - we've all been on that (dating-out-of body-i can believe it experience)especially in terms of his not being your type - HOWEVER - Im recently diagnosed - and Im coming to terms with being open about my journey some of the things you said alarmed me because of his being very different from you - don't let that take away from his journey of his truth - allowing you in to his world about his health to me was a good thing and he was not ashamed based on what you (wrote) he wasn't ashamed of where he was in his HIV journey - sadly many black gay guys need to come to terms with their challenges of health - and need to be more open and honest with each other - about just that...in addition to that -sadly many of us are not getting the mental health treatment that should go hand in hand with other treatments - because many of us now inflict far more emotional wounds on each other than you can imagine (when dating one another) and im talking about other POZ guys inflicting these unresolved wounds on each other I feel that anyone that's different from me - i can have a very cool friendship with - though i may not want to date them,,, but at least i can be mature enough and loving enough to allow that person to have their differences with out my judgments...and my condescending ways of thinking to cloud my embracing the differences of one another....to me some of what you wrote are and was just that - u judged him based on his differences many of us have idiosyncrasies in one way or another some subtle and some not so subtle - and because of our narrowness of vision - emotional immaturity we miss-treat on many levels those that are different from us - how about just say for example - the BLACK CHURCH - how are we as gay black men treated by them because of our differences of sexuality? do you get what I'm trying to say - using your catch phrase - Pink Elephants - "think about it" they are everywhere.. how about for starters "us" black guys learning to embrace differences rather than be condescending...
All i can say is wow......And are those the number 1 infront of just about every sentence you wrote or is it the letter I..and i hope in todays world of pics,you chosse not to meet folks blindly....and you a better man than me..after i would have realized it was the guy..i would have say no thanks and left.......Good luck in your dating efforts as challenging as it can be......
Good morning,Aundaray, I read and liked your blog,you seem like a real nice guy and I think you look very handsome,prayerfully,you will meet someone who will catch your eye and you both will be a perfect match,keep on doing what you do and give our Heavenly Father the highest praise,keep looking up,you are very good people. Benny
Interesting and funny story!! I am pretty open minded when it comes to idiosynchransies. I expect anyone I meet to be different. There is no such thing as the "perfect man".
that was hilarious. I felt so sorry for you but the way you desribed it was good you have a good day
Michael Townsend
Hey Aundaray, great article and I have had the same experience before...
June 7, 2011