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My own parents hope to outlive me. I will be more sympathetic when your blog is about the people that gave you life. But, been there, done that, got the t-shirt.
Unfortunately a few too many, starting early on with family. I came out after dad died ('01, mom died in 97). During that time I never allowed others' words to hurt except for 2 periods, 02//05 with HIV dx, that lasted a year and again 10/12 for a few months with t-cell drop triggering AIDS dx. I am not ashamed to freely talk of my health and like all other slurs, it only hurts if you let it. After all, we are all going to die one day, we should focus on doing good, and the bad bounce off.
For us old farts, we had a president that wished us ALL dead. Reagan. He felt that AIDS was killing all of the "right" people. We had Jerry Falwell saying that this was sent straight from "god" to punish us for our HORRIBLE sin. We deserved it! I had my hands full with a very sick partner, but there were politicians that were talking about rounding us up and putting us in camps. I remember trying to plot out an escape to Canada. After Dennis died I became a very political person.
Unfortunately, I also had someone very near and dear to me that wished I would get AIDS when I came out to them. This person is my father and that statement changed the dynamic of our relationship forever. When I was diagnosed he apologized and I accepted it but I can never forgive him.
My wife. Now ex-wife. She wanted to be the poor widowed mother with two little girls who just suffered the ravages of rhe slow death of her husband. That was when I knew I needed a divorce and to gain full custody of my daughters. She was absolutely nuts and would destroy the girls. I won. Single full custody father of 3. Got the house, the good car....pretty much everything I wanted. I declined support because I wanted her to have no say what so ever on the girls. The girls thrived.
That's an awful thing to hear and carry with you. I'm sorry that happened. I once had someone I thought was a friend become hospitalized and later when he remarkably recovered, told me in a drunken state it should have been me in that hospital. I don't think he remembers it but deep inside it is how he felt. It ranks in the top 3 most emotionally painful things I've ever experienced.
I love 'curses' like this, every day above ground I laugh in the face who wish ill of me.
roselyn cortes
No, but I encourage you to get connected to HIV treatment and care as soon as possible. take care of yourself, stay healthy and you need to be strong.
April 25, 2018 • philippines