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Uncle Poodle Presses Charges, Partner Sentenced to 5 Years

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james

Dave, great comment. I often times make that same argument when talking with people. Let's be honest, I have a Grindr profile, an Adam4Adam profile, and an OKCupid profile. In all of those sites I disclose in my about me section. Regardless I still get people who ask me if I'm "clean" or "positive". Which often time I reply with some snarky comment before reminding them to read my profile. Honestly, being young and attractive all they care about is the size of d*ck, waist, and fitness level. It isn't until that "release" that they begin to contemplate their actions, and attempt to piece together the conversation they had from the previous night. I've even been confronted about claims that I did not disclose my status, when simply was not true. The thing we don't know the conversation that happened between the two of them, and we don't know what conversations they had about HIV or other viruses. People version of reality is altered and easily manipulated even under normal circumstances, now try having two horny people who want to have sex and I wouldn't believe the conversation. I often confront people about this in my conversation. I ask them a simple question "Are you concerned about contracting Hep C?" with a follow-up of "Then why is my managed, HIV+ such a concern to you?" It's not the virus people are afraid of it the stigma associated with the virus, and that's not a reason to be put in prison.

February 21, 2013

anonymously

Some of these commits are on the edge to suggest that ever one should use condoms to solve the problems of HIV n a law. Some of the comments might be suggesting that Uncle Poodle should go to jail for not demanding a condom. Uncle Poodle now is costing the American people thousands of dollars a month and now is one of those people that could in danger other citizens. It would be different if Uncle Poodle did not know about HIV. So should we step up the issues to make a law of the land that every one must wear a condom during sex, to include straight and gay and if you do not wear a condom then one goes to Jail either Poz or Not.

February 20, 2013

Big-D

Very sick, NO one has nor should they have the right to KNOWINGLY infect or risk infected others with out disclosure. I have ZERO sympathy for the man in prison for Non disclosure, sure Uncle Poodle should take responsibility, but that doesn't mean the partner involved in non disclosure shouldn't take responsibility as well. Do I support draconian laws? No but some people need to go to jail, and anyone who doesn't disclose and actually infects someone should go to jail.

February 19, 2013

h.b.

Reading about these hiv disclosure cases makes me feel like we are still living back in the age of the Salem witch trials. What's next? Sending someone to jail because they kissed you and gave you mono or the flu?! Get real folks. Sexual intercourse is a natural part of human life. You cannot just restrict a certain subset of the population from having sex, which they are effectively trying to do with these discriminatory non-disclosure laws. It is doing absolutely no good except making people reluctant to get tested and wasting taxpayers money through all these court cases and sending people to jail for no reason except they wanted to have sex just like everyone else. If someone gives you HIV and were negligent over it, sure sue them, but keep it out of the criminal courts! Anyone who has sex with anyone else is accepting the responsibility and risk that goes along with it. It's not the governments job to do that. It is your duty to protect yourself or make sure the other person is safe before doing it, not anyone else. Just your own! The current laws especially make no sense when given these facts that most people are ignorant of: 1) You are at much greater risk of getting HIV having sex with a random hottie on Grindr than you are from your poz friend who has been undetectable for over 6 months, condom or no condom. Don't believe me? It just proves how little you, and most of society, actually know! 2) Asking someone whether they are clean or not makes little sense as a protection method considering that the vast majority of HIV transmissions occur from people who were just recently infected (since their viral loads are at their highest then). I'd say at least two thirds of all transmissions occur in this way and these people wouldn't know they even had the virus to tell you. So what's the point in even asking?? Most of the remaining third of transmissions are from infected people not on medication who have higher viral loads. But how many transmissions are from those on medication and are undetectable? Almost negligible! You are more at risk of dying getting in a car without your seat belt on than having sex with an hiv poz person who is undetectable. And we are sending people to jail over this??

February 17, 2013

Anonymous Australia

I am scared to death of acquiring HIV. I get tested all the time. I've never had unsafe sex, and to be honest, I very rarely participate in anal sex, usually it is oral sex only, condoms are always used - and still it might be 4 partners a year and just 4 tests. But I just do it regularly because I'm scared of the one in a million chance, even with all the safety precautions. So it annoys me that people on hear are assuming he was practicing unsafe sex with many different partners. Maybe that is what the lot of you do, but not me, and unless you know for sure... why jump to conclusions? In regards to the law - if you are HIV positive, you should be legally required to always use a condom unless you disclose yours status. End of Story. It's easy to see that everyone stating otherwise on here must be HIV positive. If a condom was used - then fine, no need to disclose - but this should be the legal responsibility of the HIV positive partner, if a condom is not used, disclosure should ALWAYS be made. If unsafe sex is had, without disclosure of status, I fully support sending the HIV partner to jail. The NON HIV positive partner should not be held responsible at all. If I had tuberculosis - should I go around kissing everyone - or should I protect them? Does everyone need to ask me, do you have tuberculosis? ofcourse not. You be a decent human and take a moral stand to protect them. What annoys me about some of the comments on here, I can tell, most of you just feel like 'well stuff everyone else, i got infected, nobody told me, nobody protected me, so why should i help anyone else'.

February 17, 2013

anonymously

I buried my first partner ten years after we met. We tested HIV positive 5 years in the relationship. After being tested we hugged and loved and fought together in life and prayer and action, not once did we ever point fingers at each other for we embraced each other because at the time we only had each other. I was 24 and he was 32 and had more knowledge then I and I could of turned on him and blamed his actions and guidance, although he was my best friend and I loved him. Uncle Poodle I plead with you to fix this problem with your partner to give your partner his freedom back for the Gay Community needs forgiveness and I pray and hope it begins with you today... Help Him, Guide Him, and Liberate him. I beg you for true justice begins in one's heart, please give him grace. For then and only then will there be justice in my thoughts for justice in truth and action in the healing of a community.

February 12, 2013

Orlando

I agree with Terrance, I never blamed anyone for getting infected. I knew what was out there and didn't play by the rules. It was my fault, my mistake and now I live with the consequences. It has never crossed my mind to put whomever infected me in jail because I was just as careless. It takes two to tango. I do believe that the + person should be upfront with disclosure before having sex with another person. But we don't live in a perfect world, so don't expect those kinds of results.

February 12, 2013

Mark Hollis

As an advocate in Arkansas, when it comes to questioning HIV and disclosure, I tell everyone that is newly involved, or wanting to just "have fun on the side" ALWAYS assume that the chosen partner is HIV positive and protect yourself.

February 11, 2013

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