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While I appreciate all the above comments, I have lived 25+ years with HIV/AIDS, And during all this time I have practiced safer and safest sex without infecting my partners, he had an obligation to inform his partners, it is called a moral obligation. The sad part of the story is in he is referred to as an HIV/Monster... Now that applies to the children born with this disease, no matter how responsible they handle it, and to all the people with it, everyone has a responsibility to protect themselves to a certain degree, buckle up, hang on to the rail going down steps, etc etc, I just do not understand why people are willing to have sex without asking about all diseases, not just HIV, hepatitis will kill you quicker and you can get it the same way, but they want so desperately to criminalize AIDS... but not other infectious diseases, it shows the narrow minded stigma still occurring around HIV. So why we still have HIV infections occurring other then in rare cases is for just one reason, the simple fact that we lack education, as long as we continue on the abstinence only message, do not teach our children how to protect themselves, the 20% or so that do not yet know they have HIV will continue to spread this disease. Criminalizing this one man was considered justice even in my mind... but it will not slow the spread of HIV very much as long as we allow our children to go into the age of sexually raging hormones without a clue of anything but to just say no...
I took responsibility too. I took the responsibility to the police ( along with 6 other women) after a 4 yr exclusibe-- according to him and a visit to thre Dr's office about his tests--- he simply lied aboit the results. Mel----- I believe intimate realtions as this one appeared to be shoild be built on trust and that if there was any danger of transmission of something it should rest squarely with the person who could potentially spread the disease. What exclusive couple uses condoms after 4 yrs.?? There is the expectation of trust and it wasnt there. So i took my resposibility right down to the police station, i took my responsibiliy to the other women i could find and i took my responsibility into a 10 day court drama where a 12 person jury agreed that the responsibility for transmission was his-- and that he could think about that responsibility for 45 years in jail. Frankly ,Im not sure he will ever reach that conclusion--- but if he doesnt, MY responsibility was effective in preventing a long line of other women from becoming infected. I believe i took my responsibility very seroiusly.
i was effected by aman who dint tell me his status only that i just found my self positive after staying with him for two years.For him he died now am alone with a kid of 4years.Atleast i have i strong heart
>DIANE, I UNDERSTAND AND AGREE TO YOUR POINT OF VIEW. I TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR MYSELF AND THE ACTIONS I DO. I AM HIV POSITIVE DUE TO A GENTLEMEN THAT I WAS INVOLVED WITH FOR 9 MONTHS AND DID NOT DISCLOSE HIS STATUS AND I DID NOT READ THE SIGNS BUT I TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR MYSELF. I KNOW WHO I AM AND IM PROUD TO BE ME.
Seriously???? It takes 2???? Why is it that gay people are so vindictively gleeful when a woman is purposefully infected. Its rare that any woman has a real choice in the condom situation-- husbands force their wives to have sex, poor, disenfranchised women are left little control of their own bodies-- alot of times even sex is not an active choice-- let alone a condom. And so this man is to be released from protecring others from a deadly diseaw just because judgmental people want women punished for having sex?? WHO HAS THE RESPONSIBILITY TO PROTECT??? THE ONE WHO CARRIES SOMETINIG THAT CAUSeS HARM!!! Those who carry a gun are responsible if the gun harms someone-- no blame is assigned if a bullet proof vest wasn't worn Those who carry a knife should keep it sheathed No One blames a ponzi scheme victim For trusting the scammer--- talk to All the millionaires who lost Their life savings in thenBernie Madoff Scheme---- these were smart people-- miovie stars, succcessful educated--- NO ONE BLAMED THEM!!!! STOP BLAMING THE VICTIM!!! Its a throwback to blaming a woman who wears a short skirt for getting raped. She didn't DESERVE it!!! It was the RAPISTS FAULT. Why do you all not GET that?? Is it because YOU want a free pass to go out and randomly infect who you please in case they don't insist on a condom??? Is it right to harm another human for your own selfish pleasure-- That's the definition of a sociopath Think about who you truly are...
I totally agree with you that HIV is Monster. This disease is dreadful and i wish noone found this disease in themself. Everyone should keep in mind that if they have caught by this disease. They are finished so we must know about the safety and know about Hiv. Your blog has nice information. Thanks
I agree with the above statement in regard to source of the story. A right-wing rag. This is the problem with Murdock's media world that we have let him create - it has NO real standards. This is a very important matter that should not be taken lightly but we MUST see the human side to ALL parties involved. The Sun is no respecter of NO one. I am ashamed to even see such a source quoted by Poz.
Andrew
Poz's preoccupation with this type of story seems to ignore the victim. HIV is not, as we would like to believe, "a chronic and manageable disease", and this man is a murderder. He has victims, who are now poz and deserve representation in the discouse. As someone who was probably intentionally infected by a gentelman who removed the condom midway through intercourse, I have to say that I find this ongoing denial of the other side of the story very troubling. The author alludes to tales from the eighties and a movie as though these "avengers" are urban legends. They're not. There are a lot of vindictive, reckless people running around with this virus, and they deserve to be punished just like we deserve medical care and an end to stigma. Pointing out the inherent racism of those who've responded to this story distracts from their very legitimate anger. Sugarcoating what has happened to the victims in an unrealistic ideal of "self protection" or trying to expand upon the implications of prosecuting these infectors only has the effect of making this publication seem out of touch and lacking in compassion.
August 28, 2011