How does your garden grow? A whopping 67% think pubes are best when trimmed and groomed. Read all the dirty data—on disclosure, dating and doin’ the nasty—from POZ’s first-ever sex survey. Some answers are “duh!”; some will get your panties in a knot. The takeaway messages: HIV can’t keep a good girl from going down, and there is such a thing as sexual healing. Next time around, we’d like more women, less rejection and more naughty notes to the editor!
The Pole & The Hole (Bi) 7%
19 and under 4%
100% of you are safe all the time?
Reality check: 40% of you break out the latex every time you have anal/vaginal sex. And as for the rest of you…
Most times 24%
Less is More?
71% of you are having less sex since your diagnosis, but 31% of you say your sex life is more fulfilling now. 19% of you lucky dogs are having more sex with a more fulfilling sex life.
49% say that when you’re having sex, HIV is like a fly nagging away. 35% say it’s the furthest thing from your mind. 16% say it’s like a Looney Tunes anvil, about to fall.
5% of you are saving yourselves for marriage. After meeting a cutie, the rest of you do the deed (vaginally or anally):
After 5 or more dates 12%
After 2 to 4 dates 33%
ASAP, but I show a li’l respect 35%
ASAP, but I think of them as easy 15%
You break out the latex for:
Anal sex (insertive) 70%
Anal sex (receptive) 65%
Vaginal sex (insertive) 19%
Vaginal sex (receptive) 16%
Getting head 17%
Giving head 15%
Let’s get to the bottom of this
Biting the bullet
69% of you tell sex partners that you’re positive before things get real hot and heavy (pre-smooching and heavy petting).
8% break the news right before the money shot.
4% of you wait until after the deed is done (now ya tell me!).
19% don’t even bother to tell your sex partners your name.
The pink slip
After someone has nixed a night of sex because of your status, you feel:
It’s a Crap Shoot
When and if you disclose, potential lovers shun you:
Pretty damn often 23%
I don’t disclose 13%
Post-disclosure, the most common reaction from someone who’s negative is:
A caring heart-to-heart 40%
The best thing someone can do with a free hand during sex is:
Guide your hand to the hot spot they most want touched 35%
Grab another part of your body 34%
Slap your ass 12%
Touch themselves 10%
Run it through your hair 9%
Tranny (FTM) 1%
How many partners have you had in the past year?
52% said 1–5 people
too many to count 17%
Your preferred sexual mood is:
Wherever, however, whenever 29%
The sexiest thing someone can do with their mouth during sex is:
kiss you 52%
moan & scream 18%
talk dirty 18%
direct you 7%
flatter you 5%
67% of you say pubes are best when they’re trimmed and groomed. The rest of you prefer ’em:
Smooth as a baby’s bottom 13%
Shaved into shapes and symbols 3%
(We like ’em when they’re not stuck in our teeth.)
If someone does something you don’t like during sex, you:
Guide their hand or other body part to a more preferable location 49% Tell them what you want 37% Keep quiet and hope they move on to something else ASAP 12% Give ’em the old heave-ho out the door 2%
5% of you answered “Get me a cold beer and a sandwich” when asked, “What’s the best thing your partner can do after sex?” Others are a bit more romantic: 47% want your partner to tell you they love you, and 26% would like them to suggest a hot shower for two, while 12% would prefer some towel service, and 10% would like to be left alone.
The most important thing for someone to keep in mind when giving you head is:
To get their hands and/or fingers in on the action 37%
Slow and steady wins the race 35%
To alternate between licking & sucking 20%
To make sure things are sufficiently lubed up 8%
Kissing that makes you lose your cool is:
Slow and gentle, easing into tonsil hockey 51%
What’s the worst part about the morning after sex?
13% of you say it’s seeing the person in the harsh light of day.
Leaving your partner naked in bed 53%
Cleaning the sheets 26%
Putting away the blow-up doll 5%
Cheatin heart 6%
Open Relationship 13%
Standing by My Man (or Woman) 26%
Lone Ranger 55%