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TV Dating Show Contestant Says He Was Pressured to Reveal HIV Status

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Yes, stigma about being HIV+ or having AIDS exists, but I don't see stigma in this story. For me, the story here highlights the issue of if and when you tell someone your HIV status during a getting to know the person / during dating. Some people will want to tell about it very early on, and others later. Others might think undetectable status means no need to talk about it. But this was a TV show date so an artificial scenario. This guy might have had no intention of it ever moving on to sex.

January 25, 2017 UK


If you go on reality tv you get what you deserve. Really I don't but it. It was probably just a storyline just to make it more juicy.

January 12, 2017


No I merred to a HIV negtive male. Put now he's realizing I should have been with him I HIV positive because after our marriage I'm almost 2 years we've only had sex twice and before that it was almost everyday it really sucks.

January 4, 2017


It is a shame but reality those poz must still deal with stigma. I agree with many that for me, it was best to disclose early on - before a first kiss, sexual liaison or even dinner - because if he's not interested - adios, good-bye and stop wasting my time. Years later I look back at men I've dated who we're also poz and HIV-neg but not fearful of me. Those were the winners and glad I spent time with a quality guy than someone who just wanted to "get off." Today I'm in love,,,StANDING PROUD

December 29, 2016 Sacramento, CA


I suppose it's his right to disclose his status, but experience has taught me that it's better to get it out in the open from the start. If someone isn't willing to sit down for coffee, or a bite to eat, just because I'm poz, undetectable, or not, I wouldn't want to date him. It's better to know, and move on.

December 29, 2016 Minneapolis


This is just a shame that we're still dealing with stigma because gay men are ignorant and uninformed. Just ridiculous....

December 28, 2016


This story is interesting. I am glad that he stood up for himself. Nevertheless, Swiss experts say individuals with undetectable viral load and no STI cannot transmit HIV during sex. Here's the criterion: the person adheres to antiretroviral therapy, the effects of which must be evaluated regularly by the treating physician, and the viral load has been suppressed (< 40 copies/ml) for at least six months, and there are no other sexually transmitted infections.

December 27, 2016 Washington, DC

Bobby V

I have experienced this a lot in the 29 years that I have known that I was pos. I was raped in high school by a teacher, and it totally destroyed my self esteem, so when I first disclosed to someone I was dating, they treated me like I had the Black Plague, I know that meds have changed over the years, and that we are living longer, but the ignorance is still out here, you just have to say to yourself, "If they do not want me, I do not want that type of person in my life.".

December 23, 2016 USA


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