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Now that I'll have more time to respond, I'll clarify. I was commenting on the flaws of the men you choose...Though I agree that we all have flaws, myself included, some have serious character flaws that can be categorized as deviant...before you come to any conclusions, I am not calling you a deviant. Though I don't know the details of the realtionship beteeen you and the man that infected you, his not disclosing, and then choosing to have unprotected sex with you is a deviant character flaw. In some states, it's considered criminal in fact. That being said, I in no terms whatsoever am...or have blamed you at all for becoming infected. It's insulting to even think that I would dare blame someone who was infected in your situation. Had he disclosed beforehand, and you then choose to stay with him, is not an issue. It's a choice between 2 adults, though the deviancy title I bestow on him (not you) is because he in fact did not disclose, and furthermore had inproteced sex with you. He in many states is a criminal for this alone. I am not passing judgement on hom, the law is. If there is a higher being, he would be as well. Ignorance is lack of understanding, I don't proclaom to understand much in this world, but I do understand integrity, and that man lacks it.
no it's not at all what I wrote.
Just Me--- I will agree with you on one point that I seem to attract men with some character flaws. As to why that is, I am feeling like you are saying that I get these men because I myself have some type of character flaw. Is this what you are saying? I am going to take it like it is and go from there. I do not feel that there is anyone on this planet who does not have some type of character flaw, yourself included. And from our various debates, I get the impression that you feel as though you are without fault or flaws and though you try to come across as not being judgemental, you are.Unlike you, I feel our flaws or imperfections make us who we are and each person is unique. And am I to understand that you are saying that it is my fault that I have become infected and due to my poor judgement, I deserve being infected? It sure seems like you are saying that to me. The person who infected me did not disclose to me but even if he did, I would've stayed with him. And how can you pass judgement on him and not even know anything about the man? It seems to me you are doing a lot of assuming. For someone who seems to come across as being very educated, you also come across as being very ignorant.
One's taste in men is one's taste in men. It's doesn't matter if you've been intoduced by a friend, or picked up on in some hole in the wall. As for new experience, I'm not sure what you mean besides the fact of him being of a different race and older. The fact of the mater is a corrupt moral bearing is irrelevant to race or age. Keeping in mind that I don't know you, and can only base my assumptions on the blog entries: you seem to attract a certain type of person. The men in your life seem to share that specific trait. They're characters are seriously flawed and you seem to overlook them. Take an introspective look and I'm sure you'll agree. From your accounts, there is not one decent trait you have written.I try to not judge and take a more academic approach when reading these blogs, and forums. I am not in your shoes, and am missing too much data to give an expository essay on any issue of your life........however you need to better analyze the type of man you allow into your life. I will refrain from commenting on disclosure issue, but had the person who infected you, disclosed, your world would have been drastically different. Also, had you been a better "judge of character" you may again, have had a drastically different life.....not being infected.
Onlyone--- In this case, it didn't have anything to do with me disclosing anything. I do believe I mentioned that with this guy, I was going to go about it from the popular belief that the person should be given a choice and disclose to him eventually. There's that pesky thing called timing on my part. Another reason I guess I figured he was going to disclose is the fact that I was present for most of the conversation and knew he was speaking about himself and not someone else. Considering he is in the medical field, I just thought that was something he would do. But then what was I thinking? This was the same man who was ready to do the deed without a condom. I may not have disclosed but I did play safe and stayed with condoms. And like I said, I was trying to go about things in what is considered to be the right and unselfish way. Now that I think about it, wasn't it YOU who called me selfish and shallow for not disclosing? And since you decided to speak up, I am curious to know what you would call him since he is in the medical field and I am sure educated on the subject of hiv. And considering he had an infection that could've been given to me and he would've passed it to me without batting an eye.
Why would you expect him to disclose something when you dont?
Angel--- Thanks for the comment. I am beginning to think maybe there is something in the water over here in N.W. Pennsylvania...*LOL*
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Oh yes, I also wanted to state a couple of more things. First, ignore my typos (I'm lazy, and don't proofread), second, and more importantly...I admire your composure in life, though it may have dealt you more than a few bad hands. I've read about your depressions, and I have no idea of what you're going through, but you are a strong indivdual and should be proud......just reconsider the weed.
February 29, 2008