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It sounds like it all came from the Australian to me. I think that the Australian was either ignorant / unknowing of his own infections or else in denial. Of course we can't know this. It sometimes makes it very much harder not knowing. Thank you for sharing your story. I am wishing you well.
I feel your pain. This year I'll have been poz 30 years. My 1st partner and I both got tested about the same time back in '88. We hadn't used condoms ever and we frequented the baths. So of course we both were poz. But as he was in the hospital, in a coma, just before he died, his dad said something that still haunts me. He wondered aloud, "Me and mom just can't figure out how he got it." The implication being that I'd infected him. I could have, but he was as big a slut as I was. It hurt me.
It is a touching story. I am going to be a little less judgmental in my reaction. Both consenting adults made the decision to have unprotected sex. The party recounting the story did the right (and brave) thing contacting his former Australian boyfriend to let him know to get tested.
Touching story and the lesson for me is that perhaps "the talk" should have went like this: "I tested earlier this year and was negative, but I have had condomless sex since or I was in the window period then and haven't retested since." Maybe the boyfriend, armed with this information, wouldn't have had such a hostile reaction.
Didn't "the talk" actually give them both the false sense of security that is actually responsible for transmissions...
This narrative leaves out many pertinent details. The author writes he was tested negative for HIV in "early 2011." What does early mean? Had he had sex with anyone after this negative test result? As for running out of condoms, it's a pathetic excuse. The two men had had sex before, so what was the rush about this one time that couldn't be postponed by 30 or 40 minutes to get to the nearest drug or grocery store? As for the negative boyfriend, did he only say he was negative?
MattJoin
"I have since learned...!!!???"Sorry, but this is insane n this day and age. Spend 2 minutes before hand and Google HIV virus transmission and educate yourself! No empathy from me....
March 14, 2019 • America