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Dear Jay...vi I woke up this morning dying to reading Poz and jumped at the chance to have your 2nd and 3rd blog bring me out of my San Francisco fog. I adore reading your dreamy witty prose with my decaf coffee for some reason it brings a small smile and cozy warm fuzzy feeling to my gut. In Portuguese it's called fofo. Actually, I loved your coming out story, more so,I adore Poz coming out stories. Years, ago before my Iowa marriage I used to collect them from other guys I meet on line/in person for prosperity, kind of like photos. Those loving stories they went in my photo/love letters/JYA Junior Year Abroad closet with other black books full personal history. Your public notice of being poz is great if you have Facebook. As a nurse, and since I volunteer as a nurse in a SDI/STD clinic and work with men who have sex with men. I'm more interested in your personal story of how you got Poztive. And now that you have disclosed publicly how do you tell some one your poz personally, before you sleep with them or have sex with him. In many small ways my coaching men who have sex with men I always try to use a story from a good mentor. And yes your story and approach will be of great value to me. Since, I already look up to you as a mentor. Mostly because your writing is so draw one into your story. My interest in your story and others always help me guide the young and restless to be able to better negociate a better healthy sexy sex life. One day a while back a very young man approched me on the street and said you might not remember me but your advice probably kept me bacteria and virus free. I want to thank you. Alas, in retrospect, you know why was there not someone there long ago who could have advised me some thirty years ago when I was fresh on the streets of America? So keep it coming Jay..ve we are all waiting for you words. Nurse Doug E.
Yes, I was wondering about the causes of that final paragraph showing up in gray (vanishing off the screen with those gentle final words?). Now that I know that you don't know: what a fantastic essay (who but JV would follow the question "why did you come out?" with a lecture on Aristotelian theory of causation)! An inimitable, lovely read.
I have no idea why the final paragraph is in grey rather than black. I was wrong about Hug a Vegetarian Day: it's the last Friday in September. Next year it will take place on September 23. Today is Be Bald and Be Free Day. JV
Michael
The second coming (positive out of the closet) has all the makings of a trilogy! Some people want to know how I became positive, some want to know longevity & others close to my heart say very little & in the best of silence-sharing will understand the Knowing can only ever be mine to know. Trilogy - well that's the power & strength of where I am now with HIV & Life. I like your story Jay. My 17 years has mostly been in the background hum of my existence; however, sharing with friends & family over the years elevates my private grapples with demons, my internal dialogues, my acceptance & humorous perspective on life as a more foreground reality. It's no big deal or protagonist's soliloquy. Living, Learning & Loving are better pills of truth than most antiretrovirals. Truth is those little ARVs have become part of the loving & accepting. I'm blessed with great health, a playful & child-like exuberance towards life & the knowing that me & HIV have a solid connection. HIV is always fighting for space in this often silent relationship; however, I've learned over the years to say less & to give less keeps me going.
January 16, 2015