After my last disaster on Poz Personals and a short hiatus, I decided to activate my account again. Once again giving mankind the chance to get to know a lovely Queen such as myself. I’m not hoping to land a rich man but I don’t want any perverts, creeps or scrubs either. I consider myself to be quite independent with a charming personality unless you get on my bad side. But to see that side of me you would have to be one the characters I mentioned. I like to think I tolerate others views and don’t force my own on others..What’s not to love?

When I decided to activate my account, I realized that the picture I had up was a few years old. And in fairness to the dating game, I should take another one. Ok, not a problem, thought about getting all dolled up but decided against it. I’m not for putting up fronts and being made up does seem like a kind of front, at least to me. I don’t want anyone to see me made up then wake up beside me and be like wtf? But who the hell looks good when they first wake up anyways? So, I took time out to play with my little cam I bought and uploaded the ones I liked most to my computer. Before putting it up in my profile, I had posted it in other places. And got some nice feedback.

After doing all that, it was just a matter of seeing what responses I would get. Kind of reminded me of fishing.....get a nibble, check his profile and see what he has to say or what he doesn’t say. You’d be amazed at how many men have very little on their profiles or very vague profiles. The ones who don’t have any pictures uploaded or next to nothing on their profiles usually get ignored. The ones who are vague will get a friendly response asking why their profile is vague. And the rest usually depends on the answer I get in return. Maybe not the efficient way of doing things but it seems to be working at the moment.

Or so I thought. I got a few nibbles that seem kind of promising but one is on the verge of getting the ax and he just made the first stage of my screening. Why? After responding back and forth, I decided to ask the person if he had Yahoo messenger. He did and I gave him my screen name. It was shoot and miss a few times but we finally were on at the same time earlier today. I actually saw him on first because I tend to lurk under invisible mode. I made myself visible to him and he IMed me.

It started with the usual pleasantries but then all of a sudden I was asked if I had a webcam. Uh, ok, really no harm, no foul there but after replying that I did, he now wants to “View My Webcam”. I asked him where was his cam, the reply I got was that he had plenty of pictures he could send me. WTF? I explained that I had my current picture displayed on my IM box as well as in my Poz Personal profile, actually the same picture. His excuse was that he couldn’t see it and pleaded with me to view my webcam. After checking to see if I gave permission which I did for him to see my picture in the IM box, I explained that it must be something from his end. I also asked if he saw my picture on my profile. What I got in return was silence for about ten minutes then a tantrum followed up by him saying goodbye. No, biggie to me, I was even polite and said goodbye back.

I think the webcam is a great thing when it comes to corresponding with family that may be in another state. But when it comes to the dating game, I find it quite irritating to a degree. What irritated me with this guy is the fact that it was our first conversation and not even five minutes into it you would like to view my damn webcam. It rubbed me the wrong way so I let him know it. Strike one, could’ve been a ball if he had showed just a little patience.

I know some probably think there was nothing wrong with him asking to view my webcam but to each their own, I suppose. I just didn’t feel comfortable with it. I use to be in love with the idea of being able to view someone’s webcam until one day when I clicked OK. Instead of seeing a face, I was staring at a penis without warning. And with the strange things that happen on the internet these days, no one but my close circle of friends gets to view my webcam. So, HELL NO, YOU CAN’T VIEW MY WEBCAM!!!!!!